Tools to Finish Strong

Compassion & Choices is proud to offer a host of tools and resources to help you and your loved ones “finish strong” by planning for an end-of-life experience that matches the life you’ve enjoyed – defined by love, purpose and agency. Finish Strong tools include online and print resources specifically designed to address planning your end-of-life care at every state, even after a dementia diagnosis.

Print and Online Resources

The End-of-Life Decisions Guide and Toolkit

The End-of-Life Decisions Guide and Toolkit

Compassion & Choices’ My End-of-Life Decisions: An Advance Planning Guide and Toolkit will help you work through your end-of-life priorities and empower you to have valuable discussions with your healthcare providers. It includes tear-out sheets for advance care planning. The 40-page toolkit is available for download or a free hard copy can be ordered. Some of the unique and important features of this toolkit are:

  • The Values Worksheet includes a series of questions that help you think through your priorities for care at life’s end.
  • An Assisted-Living Facility Rider helps ensure that an assisted-living facility will respect a resident’s wishes for end-of-life care.
  • Hospital Visitation Form helps ensure that people you most want to be with you are admitted on a priority basis, whether or not they are family members.
  • Sectarian Healthcare Directive helps ensure that a patient’s instructions will be respected in a situation where institutional policy conflicts with those instructions and that, depending on state law, the provider will assist with the transfer.
  • My Particular Wishes is meant to inform physicians, nurses or other care providers of your consent to or refusal of certain specific therapies. It also guides a family member or any other person you name in making decisions for you, if you cannot articulate these decisions yourself.

Recursos en Español

Compassion & Choices está comprometido en apoderar a las personas para que obtengan la atención y cuidados que desean durante una enfermedad grave o al final de su vida. Una forma de lograrlo es ayudando a las personas a planificarlo y convertirse en defensores de sí mismos y de sus seres queridos.

Dementia Values and Priorities Tool

This interactive tool will document your wishes regarding the care you want and create an addendum that can be added to your existing advance directive.

LGBTQ+ Advance Care Planning Toolkit

lgbtq advance care planning toolkit

Compassion & Choices is proud to partner with SAGE to create a comprehensive end of life planning guide for LGBTQ+ people, by LGBTQ+ people. This tool walks through decisions around health care proxies, hospice care, how we honor life, and so much more. An excellent resource for individuals, chosen family members and professionals working in deathcare.

Finish Strong | The Book

Finish Strong: Putting Your Priorities First at Life’s End, by President Emerita / Senior Adviser of Compassion & Choices Barbara Coombs Lee, is the guide to achieving the positive end-of-life experience you want and deserve. Finish Strong is for those who know they should prepare for the end of life, but are unsure how to think and talk about it. The book aims to help you live true to your values and priorities as vigor wanes, and how to make sure your wishes are honored. It describes concrete action to take in the here and now, to help live your best life to the end.

Clinician Conversation Toolkit

Studies show the single most powerful thing a person can do to improve the chance for gentle dying, is simply an courageously, talk about it with your clinicians. Our toolkit provides you with a step-by-step guide to finding clinicians who will support you in advance and during a serious diagnosis. This includes:

  • Our simple Finding a Partner Doctor postcard, which provides you with a list of the questions to ask to ensure you and your provider are on the same page.
  • Information about our Doc to Doc Consultation Program, a resource you can provide to your clinicians if they have questions about how to legally support your end-of-life wishes including information on medical aid in dying, voluntarily stopping eating and drinking, palliative sedation and more.
  • Links to our powerful diagnosis decoder, an easy-to-use online tool that helps you find the right questions to ask to get the care you want. This includes a version for a person with any illness, as well as a customized version for those facing cancer or dementia.
Diagnosis Decoder tool on a iMac monitor

Advanced Directive Forms

Find your state's advance directive at CaringInfo

Medical Aid in Dying Information Packets in Authorized States

State-specific booklets that provide step-by-step instructions for how to use the law, how to find a physician and what to consider when talking with your physician. Also see the Medical Aid in Dying tracking sheet

Stories

tara shapiro

Tara Shapiro

Palliative care physician Tara Shapiro helped her mother-in-law travel to Vermont from New York to access medical aid in dying.
“Medical aid in dying is a safe end-of-life option, one we should have here in New York.”

Malori-Marie Musselman

Witnessing her grandfather’s passing motivated Malori to become an advocate for end-of-life care and options.
“Medical aid in dying allows you to decide what you want your end-of-life experience to look like. And then the end is not so much something that’s happening to you, it’s something that you get a say in.”
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cathryn bauer

Cathryn Bauer

Dying of liver cancer, Cathryn Bauer’s husband struggled to access medical aid in dying in Colorado despite its authorization there.
“Medical aid in dying saved my husband the suffering no one should have to undergo.”

Katherine Vaccaro

Katherine and her husband, who is living with dementia, used Compassion & Choices’ Dementia Values and Priorities Tool to create dementia advance directives.
“The dementia tool is a great first step in advance care planning for people dealing with this disease.”
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peter nightingale

Peter Nightingale

Peter was shocked to encounter disregard for his advance directive from hospital staff following a routine procedure.
“There’s no better time than today to start having conversations with the people you trust to fight for you and your wishes.”

Bill Knight

Having the option of medical aid in dying in Oregon gave Bill’s wife, Judy, immense peace and dramatically improved her last days.
“Although Judy did not live long enough to use medical aid in dying, just knowing that she qualified dramatically improved her last days. She still dared to experience life, all the way to the end.”
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cathy calisi and mom nana dunn

Cathy Calisi

Cathy Calisi’s mother, Nana Dunn, chose to voluntarily stop eating and drinking (VSED) at the age of 83.
“I’m sharing Mom’s story now because I know how important it was to her that people be informed about all of their options for end-of-life care. I also know how peaceful her end of life was for her and her loved ones.”

Celia Morris

Celia Morris used Compassion & Choices’ end-of-life planning tools with her husband.
“The fact that we had used Compassion & Choices’ resources to discuss options, document Bob’s wishes and involve our daughters meant that when the time came, we simply implemented his wishes. It was not a difficult decision.”
Celia and Bob Morris sit together on a chair smiling at the camera.
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