Former Nurse and Physician Assistant Authors Book on Taboo Topic: How to Live Your Values and Die Peacefully

January 8, 2019

Barbara Coombs Lee, President, Compassion & Choices

An ER and ICU nurse and physician assistant for 25 years, Barbara Coombs Lee has written a critically acclaimed, groundbreaking book about the taboo topic of how to live strong to the end.

Titled Finish Strong: Putting Your Priorities First at Life’s End, the book is based on her decades as a clinician, caring for dying patients who suffered needlessly, and decades more as an advocate, empowering people to avoid that fate. Its recommendations come with both the authority of knowledge and experience, and the compassion of one who knows firsthand how challenging the end-of-life journey can be. Finish Strong is available for purchase now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and Indie Bound at:

“As baby boomers moved through significant life stages, we changed every one. Dying will be no different,” writes Coombs Lee, a baby boomer herself, born in 1947. “This book … promotes a brave new model of medical decision-making. It supports candor, curiosity and individual agency. It offers alternatives to the conveyor-belt approach of automatic, futile and burdensome overtreatment … Americans’ blind faith in medical authority … is about to undergo a sea change. The purpose of this book is to help people navigate and implement that change.”

The usual advice about advance directives and conversations is important but woefully inadequate. This book describes concrete action in the here and now to help live our best lives to the end.

Finish Strong is the kind of book that comes along once in a generation, and Barbara Coombs Lee is nothing short of a historic figure. This book is a game-changing, paradigm-shifting work that will define an inflection point in the way our country thinks about and cares for people who are dying,” writes David Muller, M.D., Dean for Medical Education, Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York. “This is a book that every one of us must read, and that we’ll all refer to repeatedly over the course of our lifetimes.”

Coombs Lee, an attorney who co-authored the nation’s first law authorizing medical aid in dying, the 1994 Oregon Death with Dignity Act, has worked for over 50 years in healthcare as a clinician, policymaker and advocate, most recently as CEO and now president of Compassion & Choices. It is the nation’s oldest and largest organization working to empower people to expand and improve their end-of-life care options.

Under her leadership, Compassion & Choices successfully led and supported legal and legislative campaigns to authorize medical aid in dying as an option for terminally ill adults in Washington, D.C., and seven states: California, Colorado, Hawai‘i, Montana, Oregon, Vermont and Washington to end their suffering peacefully.

“The terminally ill people I work with … want options that can allow death to come peacefully,” writes Coombs Lee. “But one out of every five U.S. adults will die in the ICU—because intense technology remains the signature of a healthcare system that views death as a failure.”

“Navigating the final stages of a progressive illness like ALS or Parkinson’s, emphysema, cancer or heart disease is hard … this is likely in your future, either on behalf of a loved one or for yourself,” concludes Coombs Lee. “… as someone who’s floundered, made mistakes, and suffered in the course of trying to navigate this rocky terrain. I hope by sharing how I fell short of my own ideals in dealing with my parents, you may be spared similar heartache.”

Finish Strong is for those of us who want an end-of-life experience to match the life we’ve enjoyed — defined by love, purpose and agency. We know we should prepare but are unsure how to think and talk about it, how to live true to our values and priorities as vigor wanes, and how to make our wishes stick, even if we can’t lift a finger to make it so.

Notable chapters include “Overtreatment and Diminishing Returns,” “Let Me Die Like a Doctor” and “Escaping Dementia.” Here is YouTube video of Barbara talking about how to escape dementia:

The empowering Finish Strong will guide you through:

  • Finding a partner-doctor well-suited to your values and beliefs who exhibits humanity, deference and frankness.
  • Staying off the “overtreatment conveyor belt.”
  • Identifying what matters most as advancing illness takes its toll and defining your priorities.
  • Having meaningful conversations with doctors and family about expectations and wishes for life’s last precious months.
  • Knowing when “slow medicine” is the best option to maintain quality of life.
  • Navigating home hospice, the ultimate healing experience.

Written with candor and clarity, this book’s stories, facts and dialogue will help prepare for latter days that retain the purpose, grace and dignity you’ve always valued. It can help you Finish Strong.

The book is receiving rave reviews from numerous respected thought leaders, ranging from Jeanne Phillips, nationally syndicated “Dear Abby” advice columnist to spiritual icon Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu, NPR radio show host Diane Rehm, author of On My Own and former NBC correspondent Betty Rollin, author of Last Wish and First, You Cry:

“A movement is afoot in end-of-life medical care, but doctors are not its leaders … this book is the field manual to turn wilderness exploration into a rewarding adventure.” — Haider Warraich, M.D., Foreword Excerpt for Finish Strong, Author of Modern Death: How Medicine Changed the End of Life

“There is no more authoritative or informed individual than Barbara Coombs Lee to lead us in the battle for a peaceful and dignified end-of-life journey.” — Diane Rehm, former host and executive producer of NPR syndicated The Diane Rehm Show, Author of On My Own

 Finish Strong is the clarion call for the end-of-life choice movement just as Our Bodies, Ourselves was for the women’s movement.” Jeanne Phillips, nationally syndicated “Dear Abby” advice columnist

 “As a society, we need to acknowledge that a positive dying experience should not be left to chance. Barbara shows that it is not something to fear; instead, it’s something we should revere.” Dan Diaz, husband of the late Brittany Maynard, advocate for end-of-life care options

Finish Strong serves as a ‘field manual’ for exploration of autonomy and self-determination in healthcare during the closing years of life.” — Gov. Barbara Roberts, Oregon Governor 1991–95, author of Death Without Denial, Grief Without Apology

“Adults have the right to decide their own course of treatment at the end of life. Barbara Coombs Lee’s wise and compassionate book shows how best to do that.” — Betty Rollin, Author of Last Wish and First, You Cry

“Barbara Coombs Lee’s new book Finish Strong will help people who want to pass the gift of life back into the hands of their God thankfully and with dignity. It is a blessing.” Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu

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